Multi-tasking ourselves to madness
A weekend story on the horrendous instances of children being left in sweltering cars to die points up out, that multi-tasking aside, the human brain is being pushed too far to function well.
Some of the children who died were left in cars through simple negligence and selfishness -- their parents used the car as a babysitter and gave no thought to their children's well-being. But a number of the deaths resulted from parents who, pressed for time or consumed by duties, simply forgot their child was in the backseat.
That's the nightmare many parents face when, rushing from one obligation to another or trying to juggle family responsibilities and a job, they startle from their work to wonder if they were supposed to pick up the baby at the sitter's, or who was dropping the 6-year-old at school or if it was their turn for the carpool.
We may feel the pressure to do it all, and do it all well, but our physiology is holding out against us. Our technology has outpaced our cognitive functioning and, to some extent, we're creating an environment in which humans can't comfortably live.
When the first wave of stories about people declaring email bankruptcy -- sending out blanket messages that they had fallen so behind on their emails that they were simply killing all messages and starting from scratch, or abandoning email altogether, many of us found it novel or amusing. But the more I read of it, the more sense it made. Setting boundaries on technology, work requirements and social commitments may amount to simple survival.
5 Comments:
Bravo, Krista!
Krista and Rick, its a good thing for all of us, when you know your individual limitations.
What is a challenge for you can be a walk in the park for most. It's called prioritizing... and stopping the useless distractions.
Prioritizing? That means admitting we don't have a right to everything. Just because you have the ability to procreate, doesn't mean you have the right to do so if you cannot care for your children properly. This goes for upper middle class people who refuse to put children before job as well as for poor single women who insist on having 5 kids from 5 different dads. You have the obligation to care for the beings you bring into this world and if that means sacrificing job advancement or missing the book club meeting with your girlfriends, then so be it. Suck it up and live up to your responsibilities. If it means you don't make enough money to take that "well-deserved" vacation, then so be it. If you get it all, you are lucky, but no one should expect it as their due. A little more selflessness and we might hear fewer stories about the pointless accidental deaths of young children.
Multi-tasking! What is that? Another word invented to make being thoughtless, stupid and rude seem acceptable? Anyone who would do such things to children (or anyone else)is criminally demented. They question is why are they increasing in numbers?
How could you possibly have anything more important than your children? How could answering the phone or getting the laundry, etc. possibly be an excuse for leaving a child in a car? You shouldn't have kids if your kids aren't number one in your life. Nothing, and I mean nothing, is more important than my kids are to me.
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